Are You Momalicious?

Are you a mom who is "momalicious"?   A mom who is full of energy, sees the extraordinary in the ordinary, is grounded or centered on what's important, inspired and connected to others who fill you up?  These are just a few of the characteristics of a momalicious mom.  Read on if this sounds like something you would like to be more of in your life.

I've been thinking a lot lately about who I'm being as a mom ... as you can tell from this blog site.  I've had an "eye opening" experience as I watch my sister go through a difficult time in her marriage and her life.  Her husband of 17 years is calling it quits and leaving her.  She was a stay-at-home mom in charge of raising three great children.  Now she works full-time, supports two teenagers who are away at high school and a fifth grader who lives at home.  Her identity has been shattered and she grieves deeply for the relationship she thought she would have and the place she thought she would be in at this time in her life. Her life has changed dramatically … it’s like the pieces of a jigsaw puzzle have been thrown up into the air and the puzzle lays on the table in disarray.  She has stepped up to put the puzzle pieces together again … one by one … to complete a new puzzle ….

Supporting my sister in her time of pain has allowed me to see my life through a different lens and appreciate what I have.  How I’ve taken for granted what I have that is good without even thinking that I’m taking it for granted.  Oh, how the valley of despair can point out the top of the mountains in our life!  How I now can see the extraordinary in my ordinary day.  How I want to continue to see this….

How is it that our own individual puzzle; the one we have built is thrown up into the air at various times in our life?  Perhaps your kids are in high school and you are realizing that they will leave home soon.  Maybe you are one of those moms who has it all --  a great husband,  a gorgeous family, a beautiful home, and stability --- yet,  you  feel a little dull and suffocated sometimes by the monotony of motherhood.  I never pictured that one of my biggest accomplishments would be cooking dinner while driving my kids around endlessly.  All that housewife/mother stuff can be downright boring and nap producing.  Maybe too much of anything can be bad for you.  My “too much” is too much housewife/mother/home-maintainer stuff.

Do you ever feel like you want more energy and aliveness in your life!  Do you feel unexcited by the day-to-day errand running, laundry-doing, meal producing, kids activity organizing and chauffeuring that you do? I value being a mom and I value supporting my busy husband whose career is demanding, yet I don’t have to lose myself in the process of supporting my family.  I notice how I nap or want to shop more on the days when I am faced with a pile of laundry, errand running and grocery shopping.  I long to be that type of person who relishes in doing these tasks and loves to prepare and cook meals, but have realized that day will probably not come.  My goal is to train my kids so I can work myself out of the housewife part of my job and into something that brings me more alive!

As my GPS system guided me home from my sister’s house last night – calling out directions one by one …. Turn left in 2 miles …. Stay on Rt. 290 for .5 miles … I felt comforted by her voice and her inner knowing and guidance.  I smiled to myself thinking … I wish I had something like that in my life right now; someone guiding me in the right direction.  Some days I feel like I do have that someone and it is usually on the days that I start my day with prayer and meditation.  God, the Holy Spirit (or my guardian angel) is that person in my life and I’m learning to trust my inner voice and my inner knowing as I would trust my car’s GPS.

Could there be something more?  Could there be a program, a community or something that helps give me guidance, support and encouragement as I head into new territory?  What’s the new territory ahead of you?  Mine is that I’m an ex-professional stay-at-home mom whose kids are entering their teen years.  I’ll have 4 teens living under one roof!  I want to live out these years with more joy, peace of mind, laughter, and a sense of accomplishment, contribution and purpose.  I want to “crescendo” into my next “career” while they crescendo into being rock solid young adults.

I need your help on this journey … are you in?  Become a follower on this blog and tell me your story.  Go to www.twitter.com/RayanneCoy and sign up to be part of this exciting "momalicious" community designed with you in mind. Get excited about the big job you have as a mom and help others to get excited too!